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Sex-positive parenting begins before your child starts talking. In No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships, New York City Psychiatrist Dr. Lea Lis offers a guide to parents as they seek to help their children through the maze of sexuality and intimate relationships in the 21st century. In clear, straightforward terms, she lays out the groundwork on which parents can help their kids grow up to enjoy positive sexual experiences, and backs up her arguments with data from the most recent surveys and studies of teen sexual behavior.Dr. Lis' unique Mindful Kid practice in New York is well recognized as an approach that emphasizes the mental healthcare of the child, exploring underlying issues to truly help children and their families move through and beyond their concerns to a place of healing and connection.In No Shame, Dr. Lis covers the many issues that may arise as children grow: how to help young children understand personal physical boundaries; the importance of opposite-sex role models in children's lives, what to tell-and not tell-your kids about your own sexual history; and the role of rituals to mark a girl's first period or a boy's passage into manhood. Dr. Lis gives practical pointers on how to help your kids when their relationships run into trouble, how to encourage them to have good relationships with themselves, and how to teach them to flirt and to deal with rejection.No Shame shows how talking to your kids about sex and encouraging them to keep a dialogue open with you will help them to have positive, joy-filled emotional and sexual relationships as they grow up. This may not always be comfortable, but as Dr. Lis shows throughout this book, talking about sex, love and relationships in a knowledgeable way is essential.

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Lea Lis is the Shameless Psychiatrist. She is a double board certified adult and child psychiatrist who has been working with non-traditional family arrangements since the beginning of her psychiatric career. Dr Lis helps parents, children, and adolescents face challenges and develop healthy, sex-positive attitudes and practices in their lives. In her own private psychiatric practice (Mindful Kid) she has developed expertise in working with modern families of all types. She has appeared as an expert on parenting in programming by ABC, CBS, NBC, and other news outlets, as well as newspapers such as The Chicago Tribune and The Washington Post. She is active in the American Psychiatric Association, having served as a member of their National Ethics Committee and on the Board of Trustees, and her publications have appeared in the Journal of Psychiatric Practice and the Journal of Academic Psychiatry.

Table of Contents

An Introduction to Shameless PsychiatryThe what, why, & how of positive parentingWho is the Shameless Psychiatrist?Mind hackingTo be right, or to be effective . . .Parenting styles & strategies2 Teaching about Bodies through the StagesIt's "vulva" not "Peepee": teaching about bodies from birth to 7 years oldFact Fix! Teaching bodies to 7- to 11-year-oldsRapid changes: teaching bodies approaching pubertyStay one step ahead: teaching bodies at puberty and beyondThe full monty: teaching bodies throughout the stages3 Teaching Boundaries, Consent, & PrivacyTeaching about boundariesBody bubbles: teaching boundaries from birth to 7 years oldThe rebellion begins! Teaching boundaries from 7 to 13 years oldGet real & get legal: teaching boundaries during puberty & beyondParents deserve privacy: teaching privacy birth to 7 years oldTeaching privacy during 7 to 13 years oldWhat can you do if your child walks in on you having sex?4 Happy Humans! Helping Kids FormHealthy Relationships for Life,br>The Power 9The need for a primary caregiverWhen you "stay together for the child"How to incorporate the opposite-sex role modelThe case for a "father" role model in a girl's healthy developmentDon't leave out the pleasure talk!!!Don't leave out the consent talk!Not just the opposite-sex role model is importantRelationship 101: how to handle conflictHow to help your angry and irritable teenBe your own bestie! Having a great relationship with oneselfCreate ritualsCreating a gentle manGreat relationships with the other humans of the world5 Sexual InitiationSort out sex and romance by teaching rational loveFlirting trainingGet rejectedThe evolution and neurobiology of sex—and how it pertains to your kids . . .Explain emotional and physiological effects of sexUnder pressure xxxHookups! Etiquette! Anal! Address the Awkward6 Annihilating the RisksDo you know how to use the tech your child uses?Take inventory (on social media)Keep an eye out for cyberbullyingDispel distorted myths (caused by pornography)Lead with the legalities (on sexting)Instill "No friend left behind" (with drugs and partying)7 Teaching Radical Inclusion for Gender,Sexual, and Family Identities and ExpressionsGender and sexual identity and expressionGreat relationships start with great role modelsWhat to do if you suspect your child is outside the boxWhen your family is outside the box8 A Parent's Ongoing Sexual StoryHow your sexual story affects your childParent disclosures to childrenAvoid oversharingNontraditional families and parent disclosure: one family's storyBlender, banner, & chameleon: family disclosuresto the worldTo disclose or not to disclose9 Parental ConflictDivorceMoving between householdsDealing with an ex's new partner and parental arrangementsDating & introducing new partnersStepparenting tips10 Boost and Embolden Self-Esteem in Your ChildFeed them wellHelp them rest wellGet them movingPractice radical self-acceptancePractice meditating early onBreathe. Relax.RAIN to control emotionsEmotion wrangling tricksOwning your sexual story is the key to positive parenting11 OMG Guide: Fast Reference Q&A for Talking to Your Kids about Sex

Review

"Dr. Lis is an inspiration. Her book helps shine a light on so many topics that have been otherwise ignored, cloaked in silence, and masked with shame. My life's work is centered around combatting public health epidemics by treating depression, and creating tools for suicide prevention. Dr. Lis and I share the same vision: that suffering is treatable and lives can be saved if we break down barriers of stigma, shame and misunderstanding that have existed across generations. No Shame helps finally bring critical topics to the surface, normalizing issues that should have never been defined by shame. It will help kids learn to express their boundaries, and instil sex positive beliefs to foster resiliency. This is an indispensable guide to navigating the challenges of bringing up kids in today's world."–Dr. Kelly Posner Gerstenhaber, recipient of the Department of Defense Medal for Exceptional Public Service and Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University"Refreshingly contemporary, No Shame addresses how parents can help kids navigate conflicts and the challenges of growing up in the world of #MeToo and social media."–Cristina Cuomo, founder and editor of The Purist"Dr. Lea Lis' brilliant book explains that when parents own their sexual story, it allows them to pass down intergenerational wisdom—not trauma. No Shame addresses the prevalent shame and fear around sexuality, and Dr. Lis' fresh approach to communication with children on those awkward topics gives parents the tools they need to help their kids develop body positivity, self-esteem, and healthy romantic relationships."–Dr. Shefali Tsabary, bestselling author of The Conscious Parent"Dr. Lea Lis provides parents with a field manual of evidence-based practices to help us discuss the dos and don'ts of relationships, intimacy, and sex with our kids. Drawing on her decades of work in the trenches as a clinician and her own experiences as a parent, the Shameless Psychiatrist has given us a treasure trove of tools and techniques that you will come back to again and again."–Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, author of Born to Be Wild, professor at NYU Grossman School of Medicine, and host of About Our Kids"I wish I'd had a book like this that brought up vocabulary and ways to talk to your kids about self-confidence, boundaries, and healthy relationships when I was raising my kids."–Susan Sarandon, Actor and Activist"Dr. Lea Lis has written the modern guide on talking to kids about sex. Part parent, part sex therapist, and part coach, Dr. Lis addresses countless topics parents often shy away from simply because they're uncomfortable; her guidance is both sound and sage, backed by science and written with tact and grace. No Shame helps us separate fact from fiction in healthy child sexual development."–Goali Saedi Bocci, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist and author of The Millennial Mental Health Toolbox"Dr. Lea Lis offers parents many practical insights on when, why, and how to engage in open and developmentally appropriate conversations about sexuality. If the thought of talking with your child about sex makes you uncomfortable, this book is for you."–William C. Wood, MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine

Long Description

Sex-positive parenting begins before your child starts talking. In No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships , New York City Psychiatrist Dr. Lea Lis offers a guide to parents as they seek to help their children through the maze of sexuality and intimate relationships in the 21st century. In clear, straightforward terms, she lays out the groundwork on which parents can help their kids grow up to enjoy positive sexual experiences, and backs up her arguments with data from the most recent surveys and studies of teen sexual behavior.Dr. Lis' unique Mindful Kid practice in New York is well recognized as an approach that emphasizes the mental healthcare of the child, exploring underlying issues to truly help children and their families move through and beyond their concerns to a place of healing and connection.In No Shame , Dr. Lis covers the many issues that may arise as children grow: how to help young children understand personal physical boundaries; the importance of opposite-sex role models in children's lives, what to tell--and not tell--your kids about your own sexual history; and the role of rituals to mark a girl's first period or a boy's passage into manhood. Dr. Lis gives practical pointers on how to help your kids when their relationships run into trouble, how to encourage them to have good relationships with themselves, and how to teach them to flirt and to deal with rejection. No Shame shows how talking to your kids about sex and encouraging them to keep a dialogue open with you will help them to have positive, joy-filled emotional and sexual relationships as they grow up. This may not always be comfortable, but as Dr. Lis shows throughout this book, talking about sex, love and relationships in a knowledgeable way is essential.

Review Quote

"Dr. Lis is an inspiration. Her book helps shine a light on so many topics that have been otherwise ignored, cloaked in silence, and masked with shame. My life's work is centered around combatting public health epidemics by treating depression, and creating tools for suicide prevention. Dr. Lis and I share the same vision: that suffering is treatable and lives can be saved if we break down barriers of stigma, shame and misunderstanding that have existed across generations. No Shame helps finally bring critical topics to the surface, normalizing issues that should have never been defined by shame. It will help kids learn to express their boundaries, and instil sex positive beliefs to foster resiliency. This is an indispensable guide to navigating the challenges of bringing up kids in today's world." - Dr. Kelly Posner Gerstenhaber , recipient of the Department of Defense Medal for Exceptional Public Service and Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University "Refreshingly contemporary, No Shame addresses how parents can help kids navigate conflicts and the challenges of growing up in the world of #MeToo and social media." - Cristina Cuomo , founder and editor of The Purist "Dr. Lea Lis' brilliant book explains that when parents own their sexual story, it allows them to pass down intergenerational wisdom--not trauma. No Shame addresses the prevalent shame and fear around sexuality, and Dr. Lis' fresh approach to communication with children on those awkward topics gives parents the tools they need to help their kids develop body positivity, self-esteem, and healthy romantic relationships." - Dr. Shefali Tsabary , bestselling author of The Conscious Parent "Dr. Lea Lis provides parents with a field manual of evidence-based practices to help us discuss the dos and don'ts of relationships, intimacy, and sex with our kids. Drawing on her decades of work in the trenches as a clinician and her own experiences as a parent, the Shameless Psychiatrist has given us a treasure trove of tools and techniques that you will come back to again and again." - Jess P. Shatkin , MD, MPH, author of Born to Be Wild , professor at NYU Grossman School of Medicine, and host of About Our Kids "I wish I'd had a book like this that brought up vocabulary and ways to talk to your kids about self-confidence, boundaries, and healthy relationships when I was raising my kids." - Susan Sarandon , Actor and Activist "Dr. Lea Lis has written the modern guide on talking to kids about sex. Part parent, part sex therapist, and part coach, Dr. Lis addresses countless topics parents often shy away from simply because they're uncomfortable; her guidance is both sound and sage, backed by science and written with tact and grace. No Shame helps us separate fact from fiction in healthy child sexual development." - Goali Saedi Bocci , PhD, licensed clinical psychologist and author of The Millennial Mental Health Toolbox "Dr. Lea Lis offers parents many practical insights on when, why, and how to engage in open and developmentally appropriate conversations about sexuality. If the thought of talking with your child about sex makes you uncomfortable, this book is for you." - William C. Wood , MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine

Description for Sales People

Teaching Mindfulness. Dr. Lea Lis named her private practice Mindful Kid, and here she incorporates modern therapy techniques that are the gold standard of therapy, but have actually never been used in the context of parenting. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on personal coping strategies that target solving current problems and changing unhelpful patterns in behaviors, cognitions (e.g., thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes), and emotional regulation. Fills a Void in the Market. No Shame is a guide that answers difficult questions that other competitive self-help books in the parenting/sex category do not address -- such as techniques to improve a body-positive self-esteem, understand social media distortions, address bullying, and help children learn to communicate about love and sex. This book does not divide information along gender lines (other guides are usually for boys only or girls only), since the positive approach to love and sexuality is not about gender so much as it is about information and empowerment. Real Stories From Real Families. Dr. Lis draws from her years of practice treating and supporting real families. With the positivity of Esther Perel and Oliver Sachs, No Shame illuminates through examples. The Answer to the #MeToo Movement. No Shame helps parents raise children who are aware of their bodies, consent, and boundaries from an early age to help prevent sexual assault. Provides definitive tools on how to raise kids who foster mutual respect, can define their own boundaries, and ultimately protect them from strangers or peer pressure. Expert Psychiatrist Dr. Lea Lis is a double board certified Adult and Child psychiatrist who trained at NY Medical College and NYU. She is active in the American Psychiatric Association, having served as a member of their National Ethics Committee and a member of the Board of Trustees. She runs a private practice in Long Island, Mindful Kid, where she counsels and supports all kinds of kids and families. She has appeared as a parenting expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and other news outlets, and in The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post and Psychiatric News. Key Marketing Points - National Media Campaign with Finn Partners - Brand building campaign with Finn Partners already underway - Building a YouTube channel to support the book's content - Physical ARCs -Influencer Outreach - Online advertising campaign - Regular Psychology Today contributor

Details ISBN1989603351 Pages 308 Language English Year 2020 ISBN-10 1989603351 ISBN-13 9781989603352 Format Paperback Short Title No Shame UK Release Date 2020-10-13 Place of Publication BC Country of Publication Canada Publisher Page Two Books, Inc. Publication Date 2020-10-13 Imprint Page Two Books, Inc. Subtitle Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships DEWEY 649.65 Audience General AU Release Date 2021-10-11 NZ Release Date 2021-10-11 Author Lea Lis We've got this

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